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How to parent a strong willed child

How to parent a strong willed child

You don’t have to be a parent to understand what it takes to parent a strong willed child. Simply taking a look at those pale and haggard mothers going through shopping malls with their little ones looking grumpy and mad. And, the grown women brought to tears at the doctor’s office by their screaming kids who just won’t seem to quit makes it clear. If you are nowhere near parental life, you might think you are lucky, but your luck will run out soon enough. Perhaps, your time of managing a strong willed child may be quickly approaching, and you will need all your parenting skills to cope with the process.The research conducted about strong willed children has led us to significant discoveries about their behaviour. The group of researchers found out, there are two categories of this group — the annoying kids at the age of two and the always-torturous teenage years. Based on that outlook, you may wrap it up that these two categories require different parenting skills; however, the study says there isn’t any significant difference between them. Naturally, the mode of interaction will change, but the fundamental principle for parenting strong willed children remains constant no matter the age.

Realistically, the period of parenting “these special kids” can be annoying, energy-draining, and causes distress. However, you can reduce its effect to the minimum level by adhering to the following suggestions.

1. Adopt the standard parenting philosophy

Generally speaking, our aim as responsible parents or guidance is to imbibe our children with crucial life skills, attitudes, and traits that will make them accountable, grow up to be healthy, happy, and be productive members of society. However, strong willed children are exceptions because they already possess a strong dose of the independence required to make it on their own. Even though, that can be at variance with your stances, yet, you should recognize it as a strength. Come to think of it, many great people were strong-willed and troublesome. Therefore, your boy’s or girl’s behavior is a sign of good character accompanied by perseverance and creativity.

Most often, parents adopt the low parenting philosophy which beliefs in subduing kids and always make them listen to what they say. However, that shouldn’t be the case. We must learn to nurture a child’s independence, and still maintain our authority as parents in our homes.

2. Watch out for his or her emotional trigger

We all have different emotional triggers that we are struggling to manage, your kids are no exception. Therefore, to reduce or eliminate the causes of his misbehavior, you will have to find the trigger. Note that these triggers can be anything from complicated to irrelevancies.

3. Give them some responsibility

As previously discussed, strong willed children possess a dominant gene in their DNA, which makes it wrong to enforce them on everything. Therefore, to be fair, let them get used to problem solving and sequencing their activities. For example, if bedtime is at 7 pm, you can simply ask them how they are willing to work out getting ready for bed. However, always remember the aim is to help them take charge of their time and responsibilities not enforcing the.

4. Positive Reinforcement

Be appreciative, it makes them feel you noticed their efforts and encourage them to do more. Anytime they behave well; it’s a sign that they are happy; and you should make them happier by buying their favorite candies, praise them, and assure them more of it if they keep things up.

5. Be determined to make it work

If you are determined to help your child, you will view all of his behavior in a positive light. This is essential because it is easy to see the worse than their strenuous efforts to be more receptive. Therefore, remain calm even when they messed up. Let them know it’s good to be angry when they are uncomfortable, but destroying items can attract brutal consequences. Always assure them you have faith in their ability to correct their misbehavior.

6. Get some rest

No doubt that parenting a strong willed child is tiresome and a difficult task. You need to be up and doing to meet up with their exhausting behavior every day. If care is not taken, you can break down physically and mentally. Therefore, you must give yourself lots of breaks, and try to get a good night’s sleep. Don’t do it alone, work together with your spouse, and support each other to manage the child; after all, it takes two to Tango. Single parents can also be successful in training a strong willed child by being patient and working with him/her.  

However, if all devises proved futile, and you find yourself despairing, find comfort in the fact that your strong willed child wants to behave appropriately and make you happy, but they simply lack the basic inbuilt skills or emotional intelligence to execute the process. So, it’s your job to make it work. To increase your chances, this article is purposefully designed to help you instruct strong willed children gently and respectfully to improve their behaviour. Notice, however, that no single method is best for everyone. You can further explore other techniques available and suitable for your needs. The longer you put your best, the more you will find yourself thinking more positively about your child and the higher chances of success.

Early Years Alliance member